As parents I find that we tend to look down on our childless friends; the single buddy or the newly married couple. We assume that they have no idea how to help with the children and make comments to then like: “You’ll understand when you have kids.”
But the other day I was the one who was shocked by three family members, who don’t have kids and who were able to deal with a situation better than I was. We were at a family BBQ and Livey was eating her supper. She wasn’t in the best mood this afternoon after not having napped and being at a family event where there were more faces that she wasn’t used to seeing, she was feeling very shy. So she’s eating her supper and she bites her tongue. When a child has this kind of ‘injury’ there is nothing you can do and it can be very frustrating to parents because they become the biggest actors in the world and it is like their arm has been cut off. Yes we all know it hurts, but it will get better! I was trying to console her but I kept focusing on the tongue and telling her it was going to be okay.
Right away my sister-in-law and Livey’s uncle asked Livey where her nose went. They made a big deal about how her nose disappeared and where did she leave it. She laughed and got so focused on the joke the whole problem about the tongue bite was gone. I was completely impressed by this idea and went out of my way to let these other adults know how much it helped. Such a small like joke, but it helped avoid a huge disaster with Livey!